“Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.” — Buddha
Peace. We use this word so often. Yet peace is illusive. Buddha’s quote makes me ask myself, “What one word brings me peace?”
The word that immediately comes to mind is forgiveness.
Eckhart Tolle, whose book The Power of Now was one of my most engrossing reads this past year, made me think about forgiveness when he talked about Resistance. He says that all resistance is negativity. And this, of course, leaves us sitting in suffering. This is an inevitable part of life. We resist the death of a parent, the betrayal of a friend, the loss of a love. We go as far as to identify ourselves by these things: I am the person who had her heart broken, the person who was betrayed, the person who lost a loved one. It becomes part of our sense of self and colors how we relate to everything else going forward.
This, I’ve realized, is why we suffer. Because we hold onto all these negative experiences and continue, everyday, generating resistance.
It’s exhausting, being so negative all the time! Let’s be done with that! What is it accomplishing? What is it that I have been able to reverse because I resisted it? Was I able to change someone’s heart? Nope. The only heart I can change is my own. Which brings me to forgiveness.
To let go of a grudge — to let go of anger, resentment, hostility, jealousy, guilt — is freeing. It lifts a very heavy burden from our shoulders. It’s the exact opposite of what we might think — to forgive is not weakness or defeat. The act of forgiveness is the manifestation of our own inner strength and power.
Let go. Free yourself. Forgive yourself and others. Be at peace.
© Vulnerable Path, 2016